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How much is too much?
It seems like the next best thing is to get a diagnosis. It seems so much more complicated than it used to be. Did the umbrella get bigger, did the testing get more generic, or is the loop hole more blatant? The symptoms are real, the tests are real, although the scale slides. There is a little known, rarely talked about condition called the “points syndrome.” Disclaimer: I am not a Diagnostician, just an educator that asks questions and constantly contemplates the inner workings of the tests themselves. Points are scored from all over the map. They are gauged from numerous forms, observations, and in our case, a medical and computer evaluation. Yes, this was based on age and concluded by points. Yes, this cost a pretty penny. Yes, we were surprised and relieved. Why? Because we had an answer. Although, I would have taken an individual personality disorder diagnosis over what we got. He is an individual and he is unique. The testing in essence grouped him on a much larger spectrum, one that I hadn’t understood at the time. I needed more information. What I got instead was a label and an acronym.
Yes, I’m a mom of a diagnosed child. Does he have an attention deficit some days, of course. Does he have that same deficit other days, that is questionable. One or two points on any given day could possibly have changed his diagnosis. I am appreciative and at the same time bound by his diagnosis. I view school differently because of this. I let more grades slide, and I allow him more excuses. We chose the medical route while it served a purpose. Unbeknownst to me, the options were actually quite numerous. I had been complacent, until I saw through the diagnosis and realized that it was more than just a mere compilation of letters.
Instead it is a STRUGGLE. Everyone of us has a struggle that could be represented with a myriad of letters. Every spectrum is different and some qualify with just a few points and some by many more. I do think we more quickly diagnose and are more apt to settle for the answer.
Why? We yearn for something more definitive. Maybe the answer is that my child has a definitive personality that has been nurtured in both love and circumstance. He is who he is and an acronym cannot change that.